October 28, 2014

Airing out my dirty laundry... the whole hamper's worth!




I have been debating on this over-share of a post for a while, but one of my buddies pointed out that many people could relate to the situation I am currently in. I feel like I am in a rut. I giant, messy, soul sucking and unproductive rut. So, pull up a chair and let me tell you about my dirty laundry... the whole hamper's worth!

I am a hot mess- for real. As I sit here typing this, I am wearing the same shirt that I wore yesterday and I am back in my PJ pants and it is only 3:30 in the afternoon. I haven't had a shower and my hair rivals the insane locks of Albert Einstein. My laundry hamper is overflowing and I have a sink full of dirty dishes. My flower beds have been taken over by a million different types of weeds and I am starting to grow fond of the flowering varieties. I bribed my son to eat his breakfast by offering him M&Ms at 8 AM and I forgot to feed my dogs until after lunch today. I got in a fight with an almost 3 year old about the proper usage of toilet paper. The fight was not because I cared that he was using TP as a highway for his cars, but because I only have about 10 squares to last me until I head to the store tonight. I should be cleaning my house or putting away the 3 baskets of clean laundry I did last week- but I just can't. 

I am not sure why I feel so overwhelmed- but I am. I am not trying to be depressing- promise! I think I just needed to be real with myself and put it all out on the table. I am pouring hours of time into a blog that is returning payment in free granola bars and a discounted meal here and there. I am spending my "free time" volunteering as a Girl Scout troop leader and at my daughter's school. I am a SAHM and for some reason I feel that title requires me to "earn" said privilege by packing my days with more that I can handle. Don't get me wrong, I love my "blog baby" and volunteering with the kiddos, I am just at my max. However, if you asked me to help you out with something- I would probably help out.

About a month ago, I attended a workshop called the Type-A Parent Conference. My favorite speaker was a guy named, Thom Singer. In his keynote speech, he talked about how important it is that we "don't hide behind the badge of busy." I love that line and yet I struggle with living up to it. I am trying harder to make time for the important things and prioritizing everything else accordingly. Yesterday, I was busting my butt in order to make the backyard look a little less like a scene from Jungle Book and my daughter asked me to push her on her swing. I started to tell her that she would just have to wait- I was "busy." I almost choked on my words. The backyard has looked like crap for 3 months now and it could wait ten more minutes. Nothing was more rewarding than her giggles as I pushed her on her "big girl" swing. My cup runneth over- even if my plate was too full. 

Feel free to imagine a heartwarming photo of me pushing my kid here. To help you paint the picture, I was busy being a mom and I was covered in grass clippings and my son was eating dirt about ten feet behind me.

So, moral of the story? My kids still tell me that I am beautiful when I look a hot mess. They don't care that the laundry isn't washed. They think I am a hero for letting them have two M&Ms after breakfast. The dogs are not starving to death and the weeds can just wait. I need to learn to prioritize- my kids first! Well, maybe toilet paper run first... then kids:)


Just for fun, here are a few of the working titles for this post:
Why I can't be "Super Mom"
Why "mom guilt" can shove it!
50 reasons I am failing at life and the 1 thing that makes that okay.


Do you have a habit of hiding behind the "badge of busy?"

7 comments:

  1. If I can't use busy, I'll say that my attention can't be divided that many times! I nearly forgot to pee today I was so crazy - and yesterday when I was talking to you, in from an errand, sleeping Red in the car on the way to get the dog. We never stop, we only continue to backfill the hole with other sources of dirt.

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  2. Yeah, no judgment here. I'm wearing the same clothes from morning workout and I smell a little. But I did take a nap. I'm working on making my life and peace a priority, not everything else. The dishes will wait, the laundry will just air out more but I'll be at peace. :) loved ready this.

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  3. OMG!! This is now my new favorite blog. Are you peeking in my window. Today I just tried to sit down and write down a schedule to try and maintain things around here. The laundry is piled up, I volunteer at the school on Tuesday and Wednesday but there are far more hours in the day but I can't figure out why I can't stay on top of this house stuff and it is frustrating me.

    We have a front yard full of leaves that need to be raked and a flower bed in the front I imagine looks like your back yard. I have decided that I am going to get everything in order and then head to Pinterest to look over some organizational tips and purchase items and put a schedule on paper to keep my life and this house and these people organized. Wish me luck?!!

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  4. The best of luck to you! Let me know how it goes!

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  5. This is my life. I'm not a SAHM though, I work full time which might be the only thing keeping me sane. Although work and everything else is super stressful, we are working our butts off to make enough time for our daughter. Sometimes you just gotta let your 3 day hair ride.
    xoxo
    The Accidental Mama
    www.theaccidentalmama.com

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  6. My mom once told me, after I had kids, "if you want something done, give it someone that is busy." I think of this often and it keeps me knowing that ALL will get done in due time.

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  7. Yep. Totally get it! I haven't cared about the yard in ages. I have a load of diapers that needs to be washed and about ten loads to fold. I'm trying to be better about being more present. I'm trying to explain that if I do work, there are good things that will come to them, too. But, I need to do better!

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